Reality TV has left us cringing when watching the behaviour of bossy and foul mouth brides. We also refuse to believe that we’d ever become a bridezilla! There’s no way you would boss your girlfriends around, forbid your Mum to wear her purple dress or ask the caterer to redo the entire menu, would you? After all, you are a loving, caring and thoughtful bride to be!
Yet it is all too easy to be swept away in the aim of perfecting your wedding day to remember that your wedding is more than just a day. It is the beginning of a lifetime commitment between two people who want to share the love they feel to each other with their friends and family.
Help! Am I a Bridezilla?
A bridezilla is a bride-to-be who:
- Is unpleasant
- A perfectionist who will do anything to get what she wants
- Is obsessed with every single part of her wedding
- Leaves people with hurt feelings and high levels of frustration
- Does not consider the feelings of others
- Is high maintenance
- Is impossible to satisfy
While it is true that you want your wedding to be perfect, this is not okay at the expense of others. You don’t want to lose your friends, be blacklisted by your local makeup artists or ignored by your family. We completely understand just how easy it is to be caught up in all the stress and emotion of your wedding day. So, if you are worried that you are or may become a bridezilla, we’ve got some great suggestions for you to follow.
How Can I Stop Becoming a Bridezilla?
- Remember it is your wedding day. That is, your wedding day and nobody else’s. For this reason, don’t expect or act like others should put their lives on hold to make the day perfect for you. Yes, it is a special day for you and your friends and family will want to be there for you. Just not for 24 hours, 7 days a week for a year…
- Stick to a budget. You and your fiancée only have a certain amount of money available to spend on your wedding. By working within your budget, you avoid the arguments and stress which results from spending more than you can afford. Make the best of what you’ve got and work with it.
- Keep events lowkey and to a minimum. While it is lovely to celebrate your upcoming marriage with others, having a lot of engagement parties, bridal showers, kitchen parties, dinners, drinks out and other social events is time consuming and stressful. Choose one or two you are really going to concentrate on and enjoy those instead.
- Don’t sweat the small stuff. Things will go wrong, that’s what happens in life. Chances are though that nobody will notice that the flowers are a different shade of pink from the table decorations. Or that you have used a different font on the wedding invitations to the thank you cards. Just go with the flow and enjoy yourself!
It’s okay to ask for help in planning and organising your wedding day. It’s also okay to give permission to your bridal party and family to call you out on being a bridezilla if they feel you are overstepping the mark. If you’re overwhelmed, check out these tips for how to deal. After all, you want your wedding to be remembered as a celebration of your commitment to love each other forever.