I regularly ask my lovely newlywed brides on the newsletter list whether they have any advice to share with their brides-to-be. The funny thing is, there’s a couple of pieces of advice that crop up again and again that together are conflicting. That is “don’t rush your wedding planning” vs “get in and book everything early”.
I always wonder if these newlyweds think I’m ignoring their well considered comments and thoughts when I skip over sharing these bits of advice. I’m not, I promise!
There are pros and cons for each, and it depends on where you are getting married, the budget, your personality and temperament and your priorities. So what should you do?
“Don’t rush into your wedding planning…”
- This line of thinking is telling you to fight the urge to do everything at once
- It gives you time to actually enjoy your engagement, before you dive into the wedding planning
- By not rushing ahead into your wedding planning, you have time to start putting money away for the wedding
- When you take your time and do things step by step, you have a better chance of sticking to budget. This is because skipping important steps (like deciding on your priorities, and figuring out your guest list) means you may make decisions that impact your budget – like putting a non-refundable deposit down on a venue that’s going to be too small for the guest list, for example
- You also have more time to figure out what you really want from a wedding. Once you’re engaged (and frankly for most, even before) you’ll start to check out other weddings, wedding inspiration and events with a critical eye – deciding what you like and don’t like, and how you can adapt plans for your own big day
“You need to book everything early!”
- The idea around this line of thinking is that by getting everything done early, you’ll stress less
- If you’re a worrier or overthinker [puts hand up] then this gives you plenty of breathing space… but it also gives you more time to worry…
- You have a greater choice with wedding vendors (such as wedding venues, wedding photographers etc) because the good ones are not all booked up
- You have more time to get DIY projects done, and there’s less rush for ordering other things – this can potentially save you money, as you don’t have to pay rush fees etc
- You can grab specials and deals as they come up – for example, the Brides by Donna Rae sample sale is an annual event with amazing deals on beautiful designer wedding gowns
- Getting things done early is great… but if you change your mind about something, it can be an expensive mistake. Having lots of time on your hands can lead to a bit of indecisiveness, which gets stressful too
- Things change, and the longer you’re planning, the longer you have for things to change. For example, businesses close down unexpectedly, or natural disasters happen. If you do some things too early (like printing or sending out wedding invitations) you might end up having to do them over
I was definitely in the “you need to book everything early” mindset when I planned my wedding. And I absolutely agree that you should be getting your priorities pinned down and locked in as soon as you’re able to. But as you can probably tell by the pros and cons above, I’m in the “don’t rush” mindset.
My best piece of advice for those just engaged and contemplating diving into wedding planning, is to pick up a copy of the Little White Book + Wedding Planning Bundle, and take your time with each step. The templates help you map out your budget and guest list, then the question sheets included will give you a good foundation for the rest of your wedding planning. That way, you save yourself both stress and money from poor choices early on.