One of the most-argued parts of the wedding planning process is the guest list. Each guest who gets that golden ticket (i.e. wedding invite!) is carefully considered. You both want a range of friends and family who mean a lot to you in attendance. So – what do you do when your friends assume they’re invited to your wedding… and they are NOT!
This is the tricky topic we are tackling today, so watch the video or read on for how to deal with this awkward situation.
When friends assume they are invited to your wedding… and they’re not
I know many brides have a lot of anxiety about being unable to invite certain people. I mean, you care about your friends, and your friend’s feelings! So of course you don’t want people to be hurt that they’ve missed out on coming along. So imagine the horror of the situation Miss J was in recently:
“I’ve just being talking to a sort-of-work-friend who was like ‘where’s my wedding invite, haha’… I’m horrified, she’s not invited… she’s even talking about having a plus 1! What on earth do I do?!
I posted this to the Facebook page, and as usual my helpful readers had some practical advice.
There was a range of approaches suggested. The route you take take will depend on your personality… and potentially the personality of the non-guest too:
• Say: “I’m so sorry, we can only invite family and close friends due to (budget/venue size).”
• If you’re giving them the bad news via email, keep it short. A long novel on why they aren’t invited will rub salt into the wound and chances are they won’t read the whole thing.
• If you can swing it, invite them to attend the evening section after the dinner service (I cover off why I regret doing this in the Southern Bride email course, sign up to receive the emails here)
• Have a B list. If you have any “Nos” from your nearest & dearest, send out a second round of wedding invites to friends who aren’t as close to you.
• If you need any reassurance you are doing the right thing, follow the guest list flowchart here
And for guests: don’t assume you are invited to a wedding, until you’ve receive a Save the Date or a Wedding Invitation!
In the comments below, I’d love if you can share what you would do in this situation?!