Have you been worrying about guests being glued to their cellphones during your ceremony? Are you a bit tense about photos being shared on Facebook or Instagram before you’re ready to spread the good news? There’s always been amateur photographers at weddings, and it’s not just the “photographer uncle” stereotype that’s upsetting couples with unflattering photos. It’s how easy and fast it now is to get those photos on social media that’s causing the biggest issues. If this is causing you stress, then an unplugged wedding might be the solution.
The concept of unplugged weddings is relatively new, and it’s all down to the popularity of smartphones. It’s second nature for us to snap pics and share them with our phones!
After sharing this viral post about ruined wedding photos on my Facebook page, I received the following question from an anonymous Southern Bride:
Is anyone having an unplugged wedding? Asking guests to turn cell phones off and not take their own photos? If so, how are you telling your guests about this? Are you putting it in the invitation or having some sort of sign at the wedding or just getting the celebrant/Mc to say something?
What is an unplugged wedding?
An unplugged wedding is where the guests are asked to turn off their electronic devices such as cellphones and cameras during the ceremony (or for the entire wedding). This is to ensure people actually pay attention to the wedding, and to guarantee photographs from the wedding don’t make it onto social media prematurely.
There’s different ways to go about having an unplugged wedding:
- Some people may just ask for no sharing on social media (so guests can still take pictures)
- You might ask for cellphones and cameras to be turned off during the ceremony only
- Others may ask for a complete ban using any devices, the whole day.
The helpful sign above could be popped up to ask guests not to share. This is from Be My Guest Design
Should you have an unplugged wedding?
Here are some things to think about, if you’re on the fence about having a “no photography” or “no social sharing” rule at your wedding.
- Do you really want your friends-of-friends, frenemies, and high school crushes first glimpse of you in your wedding splendour to be a blurry over-exposed, derp face picture of you? Trust your photographer to post a sneak peek in the hours or days post-wedding. Don’t trust your cousin’s tiddly girlfriend to have enough tact or consideration.
- When you look out at your guests, having been pronounced husband and wife/wife and wife/husband and husband… you want to see your guests faces – not the back of their phones.
- If you are still dithering, I highly recommend checking out the ruined wedding photos on this post. You spend a big chunk of money on your wedding photographer, so ensure they have the best conditions in which to do their work (and no, don’t ask them to “photoshop it out”!)
- You might be hesitant to curb amateur photographers, because you’d like photos from a different perspective. In this situation, I’d recommend something like WedPics, which allows you to collect and share wedding photos between guests. Some couples set up a private Facebook group to communicate with guests – perhaps you can encourage people to load their photos in there.
- Most importantly: you want to communicate your wishes to your guests. It’s so natural to flick a pic up on Instagram these days, that your guests might share something you’re not happy about. It’s not them being malicious, just a little thoughtless 🙂
How do you have an unplugged wedding?
It’s pretty easy to have an unplugged wedding. The main rule is – let people know.
- The most common and reliable method is to have your celebrant make a statement to all guests, right before the ceremony begins.
- You can pop up a sign which asks guests not to share.
- If you’re handing out an Order of Service, why not include a note in there asking guests not to share their photos publicly.
Hopefully, social pressure will stop them pulling out their phones during the ceremony, if you’ve made your wishes clear. If not, a friendly word from an usher or one of your wedding party should be enough. If you’ve explained your wishes to your guests, it makes it less awkward to pull them up on any dodgy photographs that do make it online.
How to communicate that you want an unplugged wedding to your guests
- Start as you mean to go on – you can let your guests that there’s to be no social media mentions of your big day on the wedding invitation.
- Get your MC or celebrant to state it just prior to the ceremony: “Welcome, friends and family! Good evening everyone. Please be seated. Dan and Jennifer invite you to be truly present at this special time. Please, turn off your cell phones and put down your cameras. The photographer will capture how this moment looks—I encourage you all to capture how it feels with your hearts, without the distraction of technology. If Dan can do it, then so can you” (via Lover.ly)
- Get one of the Unplugged Wedding Signs, like this one which reads – Welcome to our unplugged wedding. We invite you to be fully present with us during our ceremony. Please turn off cellphone and cameras. We promise to share with you our beautiful wedding photos captured today. Thank you
- If you have an order of service, include the above text on them too, just in case they miss the sign!
Have you been to an unplugged wedding? or seen why a wedding should’ve been social-media-free?
Have you attended an unplugged wedding? How did you know that it was – was there a sign, or did someone tell you? I’m also curious to hear if you’ve seen first-hand why a wedding should’ve been unplugged!