Your wedding day is a once-in-a-lifetime event. It's one of those few milestones that you'll look back on and reflect often. And it's such an amazing milestone - most others have a period of significant change and anxiety around them (having a baby would freak the most relaxed person out!). So of course you are going to relish every wedding planning opportunity that comes your way - it's all part of the process right?!
The only thing is (and here's where I might upset y'all) - it's your milestone. You share this with your partner, and it's a milestone for your close family too - but for your bridesmaids and wider friend group, it boils down to a big party and maybe a pretty dress out of the deal.
I'm sharing this perspective to help you understand that if your friends don't seem to care about wedding admin, can't understand why it's such a big deal that noone has RSVPed yet, or aren't interested in debating how you'll fit 100 people in a venue for 80... it's not you, it's the gravity of the event for them. That doesn't mean they don't care.
Yes, your wedding is a big deal. But it’s not such a big deal for everyone else.