Pregnant and Planning a Wedding

Are you pregnant and planning a wedding or wondering what the pros and cons are of getting married while pregnant?

You’re engaged and pregnant too, congratulations this is an exciting time! Though it’s exciting news, it also brings up the question ‘is it a good idea to postpone the big day to a later date after the baby arrives – or go ahead and do it anyway?’

There are pros and cons to both sides! Let’s explore further.

Expecting bride with a beautiful wedding bouquet

Pros and cons of getting married while pregnant

Pros-

  • The baby will be born to married parents. This can be an important reason in certain faiths or in couples with old-fashioned values.
  • If you put the wedding planning off, there’s a risk you will keep putting it off once the baby is born. There is no best time to get married, at the end of the day, it’s what works for you.
  • As you marry the love of your life, your little baby is right there with you. If it’s your first pregnancy, then your entire little family will be together this magical day.
  • In the second trimester, the extra hormones can make your nails and hair grow faster and stronger.
  • A baby bump is beautiful!
  • There will be so much love on your wedding day.
  • This gives you an excuse to hire a wedding planner and avoid a lot of stress!

Cons –

  • Weight gain and a changing body mean your wedding gown options may not be as vast as if you weren’t pregnant (depending on how far along you’ll be when you get married.)
  • Morning sickness or tiredness can be an issue.
  • Weddings and babies are expensive. You may need to pull back on the big wedding of your dreams and go for a small wedding.
  • At your wedding you can’t drink alcohol.
  • You will be more hormonal.
  • Wedding planning is stressful which is not good for you or the baby.
  • Standing for long periods of time, or dancing may be more difficult at the later stages of pregnancy.
  • Honeymoon travel plans or a destination wedding may not be possible if you’re in the third trimester.

Things to consider if pregnant and planning a wedding

Being a pregnant bride has its challenges, but they’re not impossible to overcome. Here are some things to consider.

  • How will you deal with comments from friends and family?
  • What are you going to wear?
  • Is the food at your reception pregnancy safe?
  • How will you cope with any morning sickness?
  • Will my health and baby’s health be safe?

Then it comes down to doing some deep thinking: Are you getting married because you love each other? Were you engaged and your wedding was already planned before you got pregnant or was it a surprise pregnancy? Or are you doing it because you want the baby to have married parents? Perhaps you are being told you need to for religious reasons?

Getting married is a lifetime commitment. We enter it wanting to spend our lives together. Yes, things happen and people divorce, but that’s not the aim of a wedding. For that reason, simply being pregnant is not reason enough to get married. Even if that means awkward conversations. Short-term pain for long-term gain – you need to be happy, not doing something to keep other people happy.

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Dealing with comments from others

Have you ever noticed how weddings seem to bring out other people’s opinions? Pregnancy is the same. And, when you put a pregnant bride into the equation, things heat up even more. 

Some people are going to think you are hosting a shotgun wedding (who cares if you are…hopefully you don’t have to invite them!!). Others will support you. Then you’ll get those wanting to convince you to wait and get married when the baby is older.

You are quite within your rights to ignore their advice and even tell them to stop giving it. The problem is that they often think their opinions are right and yours aren’t! The best thing to do is comment with phrases such as, “Thanks, but we are doing it our way,” or “I appreciate your advice, but this is what we have decided to do.”

It is your wedding and your choice. Good on you if you are getting married when you are pregnant! It will certainly mean you don’t have to worry about menu plans and guest lists once the baby comes.

What does a pregnant bride wear?

Don’t let this get in the way of your wedding plans. There are stunning maternity wedding dresses out there. Gorgeous loose-flowing dresses with soft materials that can stretch and move along with your bump. Loosely fitted gowns, with an empire waist, will ensure you’re at your most comfortable on the day. 

Let your seamstress know you’re expecting and they can be prepared and make alterations to the dress as needed to ensure it’s not too tight on the wedding day. Ordering extra fabric to insert in the dress instead of zippers will ensure there’s extra growing room for the bride and baby. 

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Is the food at your reception pregnancy safe?

There’s plenty that you can eat while pregnant, so talk to your caters about creating a delicious menu of pregnancy-safe foods, or one that contains a special pregnancy-safe meal and avoids items such as cold cuts, sushi, or unpasteurized cheeses. 

Timing the setting out of your food, in the case of a buffet spread can be important too. You don’t want the food set out too early so it’s sitting at a warm temperature for hours. In general, this isn’t a good thing but especially so when pregnant as you want foods that are fresh and if meat, fully cooked and hot.

If your wedding has a signature cocktail, you can create non-alcoholic cocktails for you and any other guests that aren’t drinking alcohol.

Homemade Italian Bruschetta Appetizer with Basil and Tomatoes

Morning sickness at your wedding

If you’re in the early stages of your pregnancy at the time of your wedding, morning sickness might be something you’ll have to deal with on your wedding day. This is most common in the first trimester.

Take the weeks or days before your wedding to note down what foods or smells trigger your morning sickness the most so you can try to avoid them. Note down what foods and drinks you can stomach, and have them on you on the day. Regular small snacking can help keep morning sickness at bay.

Some moms-to-be swear by ginger tea for nausea or plain salted crackers. Others crave something a little more peculiar, like green olives and pickle juice. So, it’s really only you that will know what works best for your own cravings.

Will my health and baby’s health be safe at the wedding?

This is an extra important reason to consider as the health of you and your baby is the most important thing of all. If your pregnancy is high risk or your wedding is putting you under extreme stress, then postponing is the best option. Don’t worry about letting anyone else down. You and your baby come first.

The due date 

If the date of your wedding is set to happen at the end of your third trimester, there is the chance your baby could come sooner than expected – even on the wedding day! You’ll need to assess the risks here and tally up if it’s worth bringing the wedding forward or postponing it.

When heavily pregnant your idea of what a perfect wedding is may change too, and late-night dancing and long hours on your feet might not be what you want.

Remember too, if you’re having a wedding that requires air travel you won’t be able to fly after 36 weeks (and you probably wouldn’t want to be far away from your home anyway when that far along in your pregnancy.) 

Things to consider if having a wedding after the baby is born

  • Hire a nanny for the day to help. As well as keeping bubs close, it frees up friends and family to see the baby but allows them the flexibility to share your special day without baby duty (changing nappies, burping, and rocking the pram!).
  • An anonymous bride said she’d wished that she’d incorporated baby into the wedding a bit more. Her baby was very spilly so it was difficult for her to hold the baby in her dress though.
  • Some advice on the baby weight topic from another bride: “I know a wedding is about love and the two of you starting your life together, but also most brides have a vision of what they want to look like. If you will be happy on your day no matter what weight – then go for it. If you see yourself a specific size (knowing losing weight is extremely tough and time-consuming sometimes for some people) hold off and give yourself a chance to get in shape safely and enjoy your little one without the pressure.”

What to wear as a breastfeeding bride

A major point that came up in most pieces of advice was the dress. You won’t know for sure how breastfeeding will go, till after the baby arrives (if you are planning to try, that is – no judgment here if you want to bottle feed).

But it does leave a little uncertainty about what you’re going to wear and how you’ll manage your day. You can work with your dress designer to ensure your dress looks beautiful and meets all your needs. A good dress designer will meet the needs of their customer. Choosing a dress with a zip on the side could allow the dress to be slipped off the shoulder so the bride can breastfeed during the wedding.

Postponing a wedding till your baby is a bit older

An anonymous bride who contributed shared “If I could do it again, I would have postponed. But everyone is different, and every baby is different. I thought I would have time to continue the wedding planning once having her, and that was out of the window. So in short: I would advise organizing all of the wedding planning prior to the delivery date, and trying to think of how to include this baby. The small and intimate wedding may be less stressful too.”

romantic dance by wedding couple

If you decided to postpone the day of your wedding because you’d have a young baby there, or you went ahead regardless – do you have any advice to add to being pregnant and planning a wedding? Please leave a comment and share your experience, we’d love to hear more perspectives.

Good luck!

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