Is it celebrations all-around at your place? You’re engaged and it looks like you’ll now be getting married pregnant too! Pretty exciting times!
That is until you start receiving unsolicited advice from friends, family members, and even your hairdresser. It could be coming from a place of genuine love and care, but add everyone’s opinions into your own anxieties about everything happening and you might wonder: should we postpone the wedding till after the baby arrives – or go ahead and do it anyway?
If you’ve read our article, ‘Just Pregnant and Planning a Wedding?’ you’d have found out all about planning a wedding while expecting and how to handle a wedding and a newborn together. But if your due date is after your wedding, there are specific things you’ll need to consider and deal with.
Getting married while pregnant.
Being a pregnant bride has its challenges, but they’re not impossible to overcome. You’ll need to consider things such as:
- How will you deal with comments from friends and family?
- What are you going to wear?
- Is the food at your reception pregnancy safe?
- How will you cope with any morning sickness?
- Will my health and baby’s health be safe?
- The due date – is the baby likely to come early?
Then it comes down to doing some deep thinking: Are you getting married because you love each other? Were you engaged and your wedding was already planned before you got pregnant?
Or are you doing it because you want the baby to have married parents? Perhaps you are being told you need to for religious reasons?
Getting married is a lifetime commitment. We enter it wanting to spend our lives together. Yes, things happen and people divorce, but that’s not the aim of a wedding. For that reason, simply being pregnant is not reason enough to get married. Even if that means an awkward conversation with judgy grandparents. Short-term pain for long-term gain – you need to be happy, not doing something to keep other people happy.
Dealing with comments from others
Have you ever noticed how weddings seem to be a free for all when it comes to people’s opinions? Pregnancy is the same. And, when you put a pregnant bride into the equation, things heat up even more.
Some people are going to think you are hosting a shotgun wedding (who cares if you are…hopefully you don’t have to invite them!!). Others will support you. Then you’ll get those wanting to convince you to wait and get married when the baby is older.
You are quite within your rights to ignore their advice and even tell them to stop giving it. The problem is that they often think their opinions are right and yours aren’t! The best thing to do is comment with phrases such as, “Thanks, but we are doing it our way,” or “I appreciate your advice, but this is what we have decided to do.”
It is your wedding and your choice. Good on you if you are getting married when you are pregnant! It will certainly mean you don’t have to worry about menu plans and guest lists once the baby comes. For more advice on planning a wedding when pregnant, don’t forget to check out our Just Pregnant and Planning a Wedding Article.
What does a pregnant bride wear?
There are stunning maternity wedding dresses out there. Gorgeous loose-flowing dresses with soft materials that can stretch and move along with your bump. Loosely fitted gowns will ensure you’re at your most comfortable on the day.
Let your seamstress know you’re expecting and they can be prepared and make alterations to the dress as needed to ensure it’s not too tight on the wedding day. Ordering extra fabric to insert in the dress instead of zippers will ensure there’s extra growing room for the bride and baby.
Is the food at your reception pregnancy safe?
There’s plenty that you can eat while pregnant, so talk to your caters about creating a delicious menu that contains pregnancy-safe foods and avoids items such as cold cuts, sushi, or unpasteurized cheeses.
Timing the setting out of your food, in the case of a buffet spread can be important too. You don’t want the food set out too early so it's sitting at a warm temperature for hours. In general, this isn’t a good thing but especially so when pregnant as you want foods that are fresh and if meat, fully cooked and hot.
If your wedding has a signature cocktail, you can create a mocktail version for you and any other guests that aren’t drinking alcohol.
Morning sickness at your wedding
If you’re in the first trimester at the time of your wedding, morning sickness might be something you’ll have to deal with on your wedding day.
Take the weeks or days before your wedding to note down what foods or smells trigger your morning sickness the most so you can try to avoid them. Note down what foods and drinks you can stomach, and have them on you on the day. Regular small snacking can help keep morning sickness at bay.
Some moms-to-be swear by ginger tea for nausea, or plain salted crackers. Others crave something a little more peculiar, like green olives and pickle juice. So, it’s really only you that will know what works best for your own cravings.
Will my health and baby’s health be safe at the wedding?
This is an extra important reason to consider as the health of you and baby is the most important thing of all. If your pregnancy is high risk or your wedding is putting you under extreme stress, then postponing is the best option.
Don’t worry about letting anyone else down. You and baby come first.
The due date
If your wedding is set to happen at the end of your pregnancy, there is the chance your baby could come sooner than expected - even on the wedding day!
You’ll need to assess the risks here and tally up if it’s worth bringing the wedding forward or postponing it. When heavily pregnant your idea of what a perfect wedding is may change too, and late night dancing and long hours on your feet might not be what you want.
Remember too, if you’re having a wedding that requires air travel you won’t be able to fly after 36 weeks (and you probably wouldn’t want to be far away from your home anyway when that far along in your pregnancy.)
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