How many bridesmaids is too many?

how many bridesmaids is too many

Are you a bride-to-be that’s struggling to decide on just a couple of bridesmaids? Has the idea of a ton of bridesmaids appeal? In New Zealand at least, 3 bridesmaids tends to be the typical number. The wedding blogs I read out of the USA seem to have much bigger wedding parties – with 10 bridesmaids not too uncommon. It leads me to wonder – how many bridesmaids is too many?

For me, I settled on two and that was enough. For you, the number may be a lot bigger, or it can even be 0! It’s up to you – how many bridesmaids you decide to have depends on a number of factors: cultural, financial, social… how many siblings you have, how many groomsmen your groom wants… it’s it’s the bride’s choice. Don’t worry about what other people think.

 As a bridesmaid, it could be a bit off-putting to hear you are one of 10. But there is always the option to say no to being bridesmaid.  Hell – at least there’s lots of people to split the hen’s night organisation with!

It’s up to you how many is too many – remember it is your day. Don’t just have a bunch of bridesmaids to keep other people happy.

The logistics of having lots of bridesmaids

If you are going to have a lot of bridesmaids – I’d think through the logistics carefully. If you are having 10 for example, that’s at least 11 people to get hair and makeup done on the day. That’s 10 dresses and shoes for 10 different body types to think about. That’s a lot more time to get ready too.

Bridesmaids usually stay with the bride the night before – if you’re having a big bridal party, you might struggle to find somewhere you can all bunk down. You don’t want to isolate some of the bridesmaids by having them miss out on a sleepover.

Some often forgotten about costs with having a large wedding party

  • Additional transport to the wedding – you might need to arrange/hire another car or two (a major reason why we only had 2 attendants each in our wedding party)
  • Flowers/buttonholes. My bridesmaid’s bouquets were $80 each, so if you’re having 10 bridesmaid –  it’s not an insignificant amount.
  • Extra “gifts” and jewellery for each bridesmaid (often the gift for a bridesmaid is jewellery, hence why they share a bullet point)
  • Photography – large wedding parties mean more time to pose, get round the photo locations, and more time taking photos
  • Extra time and money for getting hair, makeup and dressing done

 How many bridesmaids do you think is “the perfect amount”?

How many bridesmaids do you think works well?


4 thoughts on “How many bridesmaids is too many?

  1. I had one bridesmaid! I planned my entire wedding in 6 weeks as my Mum was diagnosed with a terminal illness, and the only person I wanted as a bridesmaid was my sister. My oldest friend wasn’t too pleased about it, I’ll be honest, but I wouldn’t have changed it for the world. I love the intimacy of having a small wedding party.

    1. Awww I’m sorry to hear why you had such a tight wedding planning process <3 You definitely didn't need any added stress with 6 weeks to do it, so 1 sounds like it was perfect x

  2. I had 4 bridesmaids and it was a lot. If I could turn back time, I’d aim for 2 because it would have been easier also to organise the dresses, make up and hair.

    1. Yep the logistical stuff is lots easier with just a couple 🙂 it is hard if you have a tight knit group of friends tho x

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