The role of a bridesmaid is an important one in a wedding. Bridesmaids, along with the maid of honour, play a big supporting role in ensuring your wedding goes off without a hitch.
The role of bridesmaids is to offer emotional support, help with organising the bachelorette party, attend all the pre-wedding affairs such as the rehearsal dinner, dress fitting, etc, helping with coordination on the day, and much more. Being asked to be a bridesmaid is also an honour for the bridesmaid, to be considered to be such a pivotal part of your special day.
So, considering how valuable a bridesmaid is, how many bridesmaids can you have?
How many bridesmaids?
On average, 4-6 bridesmaids are the most common number, however, this really depends on the size of your wedding.
For a larger wedding of 200 or more people, that number can go right up to even 10 bridesmaids. In smaller weddings, there may only be 2 or 3.
Though the size of the wedding can play a part in deciding the optimal number of bridesmaids, it really comes down to one most important factor - How many do you want?
Choosing for the right reasons
It can be stressful choosing your bridesmaids because sometimes there a friends and family members who have assumed they will be getting this role, without being asked.
Ensure that you really do choose those that you want for your day without the thoughts and opinions of others clouding your judgment.
Weddings and wedding planning can be deeply emotional, stressful - and long! So consider this too, so you pick those that you think can stand by your side throughout the entire process and be reliable and dependable.
The logistics of having lots of bridesmaids
If you are going to have a lot of bridesmaids – I’d think through the logistics carefully. If you are having 10 for example, that’s at least 11 people to get hair and makeup done on the day. That’s 10 dresses and shoes for 10 different body types to think about. That's a lot more time to get ready too.
Bridesmaids usually stay with the bride the night before - if you're having a big bridal party, you might struggle to find somewhere you can all bunk down. You don't want to isolate some of the bridesmaids by having them miss out on a sleepover.
As a bridesmaid, it could be a bit off-putting to hear you are one of 10. But there is always the option to say no to being a bridesmaid. But, at least there are lots of people to split the hen’s night organisation with!
Some often forgotten about costs with having a large wedding party
- Additional transport to the wedding - you might need to arrange/hire another car or two (a major reason why we only had 2 attendants each in our wedding party)
- Flowers/buttonholes. My bridesmaid's bouquets were $80 each, so if you're having 10 bridesmaid - it's not an insignificant amount.
- Extra gifts and jewellery for each bridesmaid (often the gift for a bridesmaid is jewellery, hence why they share a bullet point)
- Photography - large wedding parties mean more time to pose, get round the photo locations, and more time taking photos
- Extra time and money for getting hair, makeup and dressing done
How many bridesmaids do you think are "the perfect amount"?